Self Harm

[larkin]

Why do the feelings occur that make you want to hurt yourself? Does anyone know ?
Is it anger or despair or..... What triggers it.
Spoke to a fellow ABer last night about this.
What do you think ?

[bednobs]

a feeling of not being able to control anything. The self harm is something you can control

[x sparkle x]

i'd be interested to know information about this also as i work in a college and on monday a student told me they were feeling depressed and were going to self harm themselves (they have apparently have a history of doing this).
This was a very difficult situation i found myself in as have no knowledge really of it.

[4getmenot]

I knew a girl that self harmed and she said it was like a feeling of release as if she was letting it all out her body when she made herself bleed.

[nat_84]

I used to try and hurt myself...not to the mental extent ive seen people do.

Nothing major but i did used to want to.

One night i cut all the side of my hand up with a pair of scissors (only thing i could find in my room at that time).
Also used a razor when i was in the bath!

Madness i know. I think its just deep depression and feeling worthless...very sad.

Im happy now though :o)

[larkin]

letting all what out 4getmenot ?

[bednobs]

try this
http://www.recoveryourlife.com/

[nat_84]

I think its just letting out all anger and frustration.

[4getmenot]

anger, hurt, pain, any emotions you dont like that are inside you.

[larkin]

Does that mean that you don't know any other way to let it out, do you think, or as a last resort ?

[fee-is-me]

It is THE most amazing feeling of release. A bit like a pressure cooker, i guess. All sorts of feelings bubble up and when one harms, those 'bad' feelings seem to flow away.

I'm not saying it should be tried. Just my personal view.

[4getmenot]

yer its like screaming I spose, but I dont know if its a last report thing as it was my mate who used to. But also dont forget sad but true some people do it for attention.

[fee-is-me]

4getmenot is right. If someone tells you they are going to self-harm, they are telling you because they want attention - whatever that attention might be.

If someone tells you afterwards, that's a different thing.

It was never 'the last resort' for me. It always seemed the obvious choice. For some reason, it just made sense.

[larkin]

yeah, I know that 4getmenot.
Believe me, that isn't my reason for asking.

[fee-is-me]

Sorry - in answer to your question(!) it was feelings of anger, but never despair, that triggered it for me.

[4getmenot]

Are you ok larking? whats you reason for asking. I can try and help?

[larkin]

I don't know whether I am ok or not - that's the problem. I have so much going on at the moment it is making my head all mush .
Yesterday, I had a counselling session which was really exhausting , to be honest.
Driving on the way home (1.5 hrs) I had to stop 3 times to pull myself together.
I had these really overwhelming feelings of wanting to hurt myself . Don't know how or to what extent.
It scared me hugely.
I don't want attention, that is the last thing I want .
I have never experienced it before in my life.

[4getmenot]

Larking we can all feel like that some days, but obviously if you are having counselling you have more problems than most and I wont pry into that, but try and think of all the good things in your life, on here you seem to have a beautiful personality I'm sure in the real world you are just as nice and give joy to many others. I know you have a family who love you. Whenever I am down I try and think of other people in the world and how my problems are nothing compared to others. I know you have a good head on your shoulders for you to realise hurting yourself would be a very silly thing to do, when you have people that love you and will help you.

[4getmenot]

and I'm sorry i keep calling you larking :-)

[fee-is-me]

larkin, would it help to discuss your feelings?

[4getmenot]

I have to go now, but carry on talking to fee and I will try and help as soon as I get back on here next.