1-0 to mr minter

[dilf]

im waiting for my sisters to phone me and call me back to sunderland to be with my mother as she dies. the radiotherapy that cured the cancer caused her to suffer a perforated bowel. they cannot operate [age] and have told us all that me mam wont be leaving hospital,they will not give her aggresive resussitation if her heart stops. now my sisters who i left with her on sunday have been told that they should stay in sunderland rather than follow me back to devon. i dont know what to do, im dying inside and i have the job of breaking the news to my kids yet

jeez i knew it was coming but its hard to roll with this blow. im alright tho , grown men dont cry eh soppy tw@t [laughing now]

[redcrx]

of course grown men cry, cry all you want and need to.

Im so sorry to hear about your mum, I hope that she is at least comfortable and pain free for her final time. xx

[maggie01]

I don't have an answer but I do feel for you. When I lost both my parents within 2yrs of each other, we lived some distance away. Fortunately I was able to be there both times but I know it is not always possible. Man or not, have a good cry. It shows you are caring.

[4getmenot]

Why 1-0 to Mr Minter? Has he been on his mission of upsetting people again? That is so sad for anyone to go through that and I know it isn�t a happy thing for you but so many people don�t get the chance to say goodbye so use your last time together wisely and say everything you need to say. And redcrx is right, cry your bl0ody heart out if that what you need to do.

[RATTER15]

So sorry to hear that dreadful news dilf, although you may have been expecting it, nothing can really prepare you to lose a parent or a close family member. When the times does come for you Mum to go, I just hope her passing is swift and she doesn't suffer, good luck!!

P.S Can I ask where you are in Devon as I live in north Devon but originally came from South Devon.

[Craig007]

Thoughts are with you Dilf, your late night comments in sport section always make me smile m8, and as for grown men not crying, thats rubbish, you can't and shouldn't contain your feelings at a time like this.

[kick3m0n]

dilf baby, my heart goes out to you. There really aren't any words, but you will get through this, and I've no doubt you'll be there for your kids, sisters and anyone else who needs you. Crying doesn't make you any less strong, and in the long run, it'll almost certainly help, so let it go if you need to. As for what you do? Go with your heart on this one. Take care of yourself, you'll be in my thoughts sweetie. xxx

[noxlumos]

So sorry dilf, you cry all you like mate, there's no shame in that at all. Very sorry to hear you've had such bad news.

[PinkFizz]

Awww I really feel for you - what a terrible thing.Of course you can cry - it takes a real man to cry and nothing to be ashamed of.I can't offer any advice Im afraid - just my deepest sympathy and a big big hug.

Pink xxx

[loobie]

So sorry to hear about your mum Dilf but you have every reason to sob your heart out. It's a load of rubbish that grown men can't cry, they can and they do.
Just make sure you get to your mum to say goodbye. I haven't lost any parents but I never got to say goodbye to my Grandad and that breaks my heart every day. Take care and cry as much as you need to hun xxxx

[ruthann58]

so sorry to hear about your mum, you cry mate all i can say is,in the end you get used to the pain but it never stops hurting ,but in time you will be able to bear it and the good memories come to the front of your mind and the bad ones fade, its 4and half years since i lost my mum i still break my heart sometimes, but now we laugh about the things she did ,i still talk to her and feel that shes about and keeping an eye on what i'm up to

[Carakeel]

dilf, my heart goes out to you and all of your family. This is such a difficult time for you all. Please don't hold back your emotions, it is not a good thing to do when you are faced with the loss of a loved one. My youngest some did that when my older son died. He never grieved properly, never shed a tear and now several years on he is a mess in so many ways. He has never really come to term with the loss of his brother. Grown, Strong men do and should cry when they are hurting! These are honest emotions you are having here and they are to be respected by all. Like all the others, I too hope that the inevitable goes smoothly and without pain for your Mum and that it will not take too long for you to find the strength to laugh with her again in your heart. She will always be there, remember that. I send you a big hug and my sincerest wishes for a calm positive time in the near future.

[whiskeysheri]

Sending you all my love and loads of hugs, dilf. You have a good cry.

We're all thinking of you xxxxxxxxxx

[whiffey]

Profound sympathy dilf. However, it is made as comfortable as possible nowadays.

A practical note - if she appears to be in any discomfort, ask the staff to increase the dosage of painkillers (she is on a drip?).

Nothing wrong with crying.

[Neutron]

dilf, I'm so sorry to hear your sad news, and my sincere sympathies to you, your children and your sisters.
I do hope you can get to Sunderland in time to have some time with your Mother, hold her hand and tell her you love her. That will comfort her. I'm sure the doctors will do everything possible to make sure she is not in any pain.
As others have said, she will always be with you in spirit and in your heart., and in time that will be a comfort to you.

Sincerely,
Neutron.

[Octavius]

Sorry to hear what you and your family are going through dilf, but I have to ask as well. Why mention an anonymous, faceless ABer at this most painful time?

[spk]

sorry to hear of your news Dilf, thinking of you. Absolutely nothing wrong with crying its only natural. We would be worried if you didnt ! x

[admarlow]

I hope she is in no pain, my thoughts are with you, and just because you want to cry doesn't mean you are not strong.
Maybe it wasn't such a good idea to mention another ABer in such a sensative thread.

Admarlow x x x