to be or not to be?

[bowannabow]

I am keen on someone who I have just discovered is moving to the other side of the country in a couple of months. Is it worth pursuing or are long distance relationships a nightmare? we get on well and there is flirtation but I don't want to make a fool of myself. He is moving to make a fresh start, so does he want baggage right now?

[Kim A]

Why don't you just play it by ear for the time the other person is in your area? Keep it friendly, no promises or anything, just a few dates and see how it goes. You'll both know, when he is due to go, whether or not it's worth you going with him. And, if you keep it light, he can't possibly think you are baggage! Softly, softly, and all that! Good luck!

[Spcl22]

A friend of mine kept a relationship going with a chappy who lived in Guernsey.... she lived in the West Midlands. They are now happily married! Don't let distance get in the way, if you both feel the same, you'll find a way. x

[loobie]

If it's going to work then it won't matter where in the country you are. I met my boyfriend three weeks before I moved 150 miles away to university. Obviously I knew after three years I would be back home for good, but three years is a long time! We have now been together for five years!!!

The only thing I think that you have to consider is, if it did work and you wanted to be together forever, would you be happy to move to where he is going? Because if he is going for a fresh start, I should imagine that he wouldn't want to move back again. A good friend of mine has been in a relationship for a while with someone who lives nearly three hours away from her. She has taken the plunge and is moving there this month and getting married next year!!

There are always things to consider but I say just give it a go. You never know what will happen. Good luck xx

[whiskeysheri]

I've been in a long-distance (85 miles) relationship for the last six years. We see each other almost every weekend, and I love it this way. I get to do my own thing in the week.

It can work, if you want it to x