ChatterBank1 min ago
Nervous reaction to bad news
What it is, I either laugh or smile whenever I hear bad news. The worse the news is, the more likely I am to smile or laugh about it. It's a nervous reaction I know, and I've always done it, but growing up it hasn't really been a massive problem for the simple reason that the younger you are, the less tragic news you receive. Sadly, as you get older, you tend to hear more bad news and it's now making me anxious, which I realise is likely to exacerbate the problem.
My wife is aware of it, but even she says that if I was to smile if something terrible happened to her family, she would hate me for it. Obviously, I can completely understand this. Any ideas on what I should do?
No best answer has yet been selected by Strontium. Once a best answer has been selected, it will be shown here.For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.
the best thing would just be to apologise and explain that its a nervous reaction and you can't always control it, assure them that nothing about the situation is funny and you don't mean to offend. then spend some time consoling them and not smiling.
its a fairly common thing so i assume most people will be aware and understand and be ok about it - lets face it only the most evil and twisted people would genuinely find a death or something funny.
I went to see my pal after a holiday and asked where her kitten was.She then proceeded to tell me she had hunted high and low for it and when she got to the kitchen she saw it going round and round in the washing machine - which was just about on the final spin.
I put my hand over my mouth and said - o no - but burst out laughing.Mortified - I still am.In fairness - she did laugh at me laughing.I know its not the same as what you are speaking about but - it is purely a nervous reaction - but it was also the way she told the story.
I remember reading about a man who was cycling along the road and a turnip fell off a lorry and hit him on the head resulting in him ultimately dying.How can you tell that to people and expect them to keep a straight face.
Its my worst nightmare.I am not being flippant but its a sad fact that we all go but also not in the most dignified manner.
Dont worry - I think the majority of us are tarred with the same brush.