Unhappy Feeling

[sunny-dave]

I'm not a big one for introspection - but today I'm feeling decidedly maudlin.

Not for myself, but because I'm now exactly the same age that my Dad was when he died.

Comparing my happiness (and the future I hope to have in front of me) with his struggle with continual ill-health and then an early death has made me sad - he (and my Mum) must have felt cheated of the retirement they'd worked for.

I'll be fine tomorrow - but right now I'm stuck in a brown study ...

SDx

[retrocop]

Theland
Sir Winston Spencer Churchill actually said,”keep beggaring on” (Well actually it wasn’t exactly beggaring)
Anyhow I don’t really give a beggar. I take what happens when it comes.All my family will be left comfortable and thats all I am concerned about.

[Sqad]

gness.....you are correct, dave isn't a whinger and in many ways it is unfortunate that he was the author.....but, read his OP again, nowhere did he ask for other peoples opinion as it was a statement of fact as felt bny dave.
You have been on AB long enough to know that a post like that will be open to differing opinions and interpretations. I have been wanting to comment about AB and my perception of doom and gloom and I suppose naomi felt the same.....as do other Abers ...I assume.
What more appropriate way to voice our opinions when the window of opportunity presents for our opinions to be voiced?
Nothing against yopu, nothing against dave......but an opinion about AB.
I will be off Ab as i intend to watch ManUtd v PSG

[DTCwordfan]

I'll add my 'alfpenny's worth.....Sqad, naomi, why does it matter and what's this really got to do with 'overall doom and gloom in AB'? In short, it doesn't.

From Dave's perspective, he felt a little down, (not depressed), about a significant day in his life, a day that many here have gone through and felt the same way as Dave does/did - so in that alone, there's nothing wrong in 'vocalising' it and, indeed, the very expression of the emotions involved in this may help others approaching a day that can feel gloomy for some of them in that this is a more general 'experience' than may first be thought.

[naomi24]

DTC, the thoughts didn’t relate to Dave. Just an observation about AB in general. No more than that. I can’t see why anyone is getting their knickers in a knot about it, or indeed carrying it on, but there you are. As PeterPedant would say ‘this is AB’.

[Cloverjo]

I don’t care about my own death, but I’m a bit worried about my dad. Quite a few members of our family died at 79, most of them younger though. My dad will be 80 in a few weeks. He’s relatively healthy so hopefully he’ll make it :/

I try not to worry about death. But it’s understandable to feel a bit melancholy sometimes. My cousin died in her 40s in a car crash a couple of months ago. So you never know what’s going to happen.

[Theland]

Naomi's attitude to most threads is enough to send anybody away. U

[sunny-dave]

Nicely put DTC - we don't always get on, but you've summed up very nicely here.

Thanks - have a BA

Dx

[Zacs-Master]

Some of the answers on here are why people fear airing feelings of depression (not that I think your depressed, Dave). The empathetic answers prove why ‘it’s good to talk’.

[Atheist]

Well at least any devout Christians here won't be worried about death; they'll be looking forward to it, won't they?

[gness]

Some nice answers, Dave....and two excellent ones....DT and Zacs and a couple from members who should be taking a good hard look at themselves before posting......x

[237SJ]

It's normal to ruminate about the death of loved ones sometimes. I get days at this time of the year when I get sad about my parents as they both died at the end of March/beginning of April. There is a bird that sings at this time of the year and whenever I hear it I always feel a bit sad as it was singing when my Dad died. It would be a bit strange to never feel sad - at least if you had a good relationship with them (which quite a lot of people on here don't seem to have had which might be why they can't understand)

[murraymints]

feeling sad today myself as it is my Dad's 85th birthday..the 4th since he passed...took flowers to cemetery and had a wee blub... we all have such days in our lives.... not to be scoffed at or diminished.. all part of the pain one feels in bereavement of much loved ones...

[Zacs-Master]

Awww,bless Minty. Hope your ok now.

[murraymints]

I am Zac thank you... the pain and loss is still very great..as you will understand..xx

[naomi24]

Haha! Tin hat on sqad! The gang’s all here, pitchforks and all! :o)

[Zacs-Master]

I never really grieved for my dad, Minty. I never felt the need which sounds very cold and hard (and it was a surprise to me...still is).

[Zacs-Master]

How would you know that, being such a new member?

[Zacs-Master]

Yeah, right!