Am I Being Too Sensitive?

[Stephaniyah90]

Okay, so I have been dating this guy for about a month and a half & we've been getting along fine. Bt the other day, he suddenly went off for no reason for like, 15 mins, calling me a bitch and stuff-during and after a hook-up session! Later, he tried reasoning w/me by saying that's just how he talks & he's called other girls that. On top of that, he kept hinting about breaking up and said maybe I'm too young for him-I don't want to state our ages. A few hrs. later, I could have sworn he mumbled he loved me bt how is that love??? Anyways, I stopped talking to him & he gave up trying to calm me down. Just a few days earlier, I asked him not to hurt me & he agreed bt now he does this? My question is, am I wrong or is he wrong?

[mccfluff]

if you're having to ask someone not to hurt you, you're in the wrong relationship

I doubt he's in love with you, i think a month is a bit too soon, more like lust

he sounds a little immature

[andy-hughes]

If you need to ask your boyfriend not to hurt you, you are going out with the wrong boy.

I suggest you let this guy do his growing up on someone else's time, and look around for someone who knows how to treat you with the respect you deserve.

[andy-hughes]

Crossed posts with mccfluff, but we obviously see the situatuon in exacxtly the same way.

[ummmm]

You sound very young.

[Baldric]

Get out now before you get hurt is my advice!

[pusskin]

I think you should be looking for a new friend and dump this one.

[pixie373]

You're 14, from username?

[Stephaniyah90]

Thank you guys-I'll stay away even tho we have school together for another couple wks. I'm over 21, btw

[tonyav]

Are you in the USA, Stephaniyah ?.

[woofgang]

a hook up session? I hope that doesn't mean what I think it means....

[pixie373]

Ok, stephanie- sorry. Either way, you can do much better than this x

[ummmm]

Hook up is just another way of describing it...

[Stephaniyah90]

I'm abstinent bt we did things other than penetration. I live in Cali. Another thing I didn't understand is how he said no one will play him and gave me a pack of condoms like 'take care of my babies.' We didn't even go that far, tho... bt I will try to pretend he doesn't exist. And when he said bitch, he said 'my bitch.' Bt I still think that is disrespectful

[woofgang]

Honestly have you no self respect?

[2sp_]

He sounds like a charming guy...

Dump him and avoid him like the plague. His behaviour won't change, and could even escalate.

Hopefully he will grow up and learn to respect women, but you deserve to be treated better by someone else.

[ummmm]

Yes it's disrespectful.

[Old_Geezer]

When young it is difficult to know how to react to ones feelings, and so some folk do foolishly put on a façade sometimes. But as others have said, if his way of looking 'big' is to harm you, then you need to go find someone who wants to be a better person. Maybe in a few years when he has matured he'll be worth knowing, but at the moment ....

[Old_Geezer]

Now I read you are over 21, and I assume he is too, then maybe he isn't going to improve. All the more reason to cut your losses and start afresh.

[Sqad]

Nobody is wrong.
This is not an abnormal male behaviour during mating and some women love this type of macho approach.
Other women may demand being " roughed up" and enjoy it, heightening the foreplay.
Discuss what turns him on and what turns you on............

[ummmm]

They aren't having sex!!!!