getting my ex back...

[MrsMeeagi]

alright people, I've never used an online site before for help but I really need advice. DESPERATELY. I recently met up with my first love, whome I was with for 2 years when I was only 15 years old. He was my first and I was his. Our love was VERY strong, very real, romantic & unlike any relationship I have before. We used to watch the stars together in the long grass and talk about life and aliens etc, we'd be so so romantic & it was REAL first love. Both know it. I ended it when I was a young girl of 17years old. Regretted it but once I regretted it things were too late and he was over it. We was both young kids. Anyways I am a grown adult now of 24 years old. We remained good friends and spoke to each other often via facebook and occasional texts. Last Friday he asked me to meet up for drinks. Soon as I seen him ALL the feelings came back. We had a great night out, total laugh which ended in us sleeping together & he stayed at mine. He had to go to football in the afternoon & kept setting him snooze button hesitating to go. he once got all ready and was at the door then said "I want to stay ten more minutes & took his shoes back off. He told me in the morning when we was kissing that I was beautiful & I made him feel nervous, I asked why and he said he didnt know. He left telling me to text him. Only 2 seconds later he text me haha. We text all saturday & sunday. Monday & Tuesday he only text in the morning and stopped about 1 in the afternoon, when he text this morning i told him he didnt need to text me because he felt he kinda had to, and he replied he was only texting as he was bored but he will stop. I told him to take care and he never replied. Our texts are mostly him name calling and playing about stuff like he'll say 'I hate your face so much' and 'i want someone to rub baby oil onto me' or 'you have a face like a bag of smashed crabs' lol I know its all play talk though. Never saying anything about meeting up again or our past though etc. Heres the bad bit.....I think, emphasis on THINK, that he may have a girlfriend (facebook reasons too long to get into, although he dont have a relationship status on at the moment but this girl writes stuff that appears to indicate there may be something there). I ask how can I get him back. Dear lord, someone please, PLEASE, help me. I LOVE this guy so much. I really do. I dont want any advice on getting over him, I want to know how I need to act to get him back. guys, this guy was EVERYTHING to me, we camped in the snow, had mud fights, used to throw each other in the rver, candle lit picnics, do romantic things...we was SO close we just met too young. Im HEARTBROKEN.I also need opinions on the issue of him maybe liking me??? or was I just sex? HELP please im so distraught x

[welshlibranr]

please listen to what tink is saying too!...she's so right, more your age, I guess!.........so a bit more in touch with you!........but these things are the same for all of us really!.............

[tinkerbell23]

Seriously craft!! Lol!!! I felt like shhht for ages!! Im almost a complete man hater now LOL x

[MrsMeeagi]

thanks girls. I will. I'll cut all ties and delete his number & delete him from facebook. Thanks so much for this btw. You have no idea, how good it felt to talk to people. I told one of my friends and she change the sunbecj back to herself and how her bf was annoying her. Felt like I needed help from people who actually wanted to help so came on here. I defo need to get some new hobbies. Ive got to the pont where I feel like my life is boring and not exciting. Maybe if I lived my life fully I'd not be so upset. I know I deserve better as I would be an awesome girlfriend to someone. Im far too fussy though so I wont be meeting anyone soon (I have been single since November anyways haha). Feels like Ive broken up with someone though. Good greif, im a bubbling wreck! Thanks everyone. x

[tinkerbell23]

Good luck mrs.... Iv bn single for 3ys and keep meetinh LOSERS so it will be staying that way hahahaha dnt settle for anything less x

[craft1948]

Why are you called Mrs?

[welshlibranr]

you'll be fine girl!............remember to be your own person, be independant, not needy!.........enjoy our life!................never be dependant on anyone, and never a man!...........as long as you're in control of your life, you'll do ok!........remember that!.........so true!.....

[MrsMeeagi]

craft haha I like Mr meeagi so decided to be his Mrs on here, haha, dont worry I am not married heaven forbid. Tink, I too keep meeting losers or control freaks. Doubt I will be in a relationship soon either. Three years is a long time to be single, have you had dates in between? x

[tinkerbell23]

Odd dates. Nothing special. Its tooo long tbh. Im fed up now!! Exs are exs though believe me LOL two different ones ive went back too and wound up hurt even more LOL!!!!! id love to meet someone x

[MrsMeeagi]

welsh that is soo true. I never act needy anyways. Im normally fine. I once was needy with a guy before and I totally learnt from the past experience. Although looking back now I am glad I was needy and pushed him away because he was not a nice guy at all. haha. but I live to learn. I want to feel happy in my own life and body and at the moment I do not feel that I am...guess I have a lot of me time needed on the cards. Your a wise woman & all your word are so appreciated. I feel relieve & have even stopped crying all over the keyboard haha thank you :) x

[welshlibranr]

very sad that you've not met someone special for you and tink too!........but you're better off without a loser in your life!.............

[MrsMeeagi]

im signing off just now to read a bit of my book to try send me off to sleep but thanks so much for all your words, thoughs, advice and condolences. They have cleared my head a bit better and helped me realise what I was unable to see. Tink I hope you too meet a nice guy, your time will come :) you seem like a nice person :) & welsh thanks again. :) Night night guys X

[welshlibranr]

Nos Dda luv!......Goodnight!......sleep well!............x

[tinkerbell23]

Thanks hun. Pop in an say hi xxxxx

[starone]

There are nice blokes out there but he's not one of them.

[venator]

if a grizzly old bloke can offer a point of view, i think cutting him out of your life for a while might be a good thing, if you can do it.

There's always one partner in a relationship who cares more, and that partner can get used. If he feels you're too easily available, he may do just that.

I notice he said he felt nervous. Could he feel you're coming on to him too much, and threatening whatever setup he has at the moment?

If you could get the idea across that you would like a lasting relationship, but don't want to crowd him, so that you wouldn't communicate again, it may take off the pressure, and allow him to see what really matters to him.

If he's in a relationship, perhaps wait for it to end - he may come running back.

Most blokes don't think about relationships - things have to dawn slowly.

[jackthehat]

Wow!
From crying over your keyboard to cutting him loose in a mere 49 minutes.....

Damn, these AB Agony Aunts are good!!!

[Ankou]

not that good jack, i presume he still has testicles.

i give it another ten posts to castration.

[MrsMeeagi]

ven - Ive cut communication with him when I told him to stop texting me everyday for small talk, he said he'd stop & I said take care. Since then we havent spoken. I still have him on facebook, i'm just going to keep off it for the time being as I dont want to actually delete him. But I am not going to communicate with him. Your defo right about caring for one person more though. I think its me who cared more but I need to forget it. Ive no idea why he was nervous but your opinion from a mans point of view is appreciated.

Jackthe... yea in an almost hour they cheered me up a bit, guess it was just getting this off my cheast that helped too, aswel as the opinions and advice.

answer removed....hmmm....Im guessing someone posted something offensive? x

[redcrx]

theres always the possibility that by telling him to stop texting you, that he thinks you dont want to know.

As a grown adult of 24 surely you can sit down and ask him the questions?