Am I Being Unfair?

[Budlet]

Ok. So it was my birthday on new years day. It was a big one - my 50th. I have been with my husband for 32 years and thought he knew me well. He knew I didn't want a party. I was so upset at what he bought me. Some sweets and a paperback book!! I didn't even get a birthday cake. When I mentioned it to him he said "you always organise cakes and stuff, I didn't think". That sums it up really. There was no thought gone into it at all. Do I tell him how upset I am or just let it fester?

[sherrardk]

Blokes can't get it right for getting it wrong sometimes. Himself never remembers my birthday but he's not going to start now. He bought me a present from Christmas and said 'don't worry, I've got the receipt' (which is good because I'll never use it). Tell him how you feel but don't fester about it, at least he got you something.

[Psybbo]

Agree Sherr, OH got it right this year, but I ended up caring for my mother coming out of hospital so lots of money lost on a special break:-(

[Psybbo]

Forgot to add, it was a big one!

[boxtops]

Unless you particularly said that you wanted something special to mark your 50th, how would he know? - particularly if it's been your kids in the past who have marked the day for you. I don't know why you thought it would be different, if you didn't point it out in advance....

[Svejk]

That was a very sad story Kat-kin. Hopefully, after 3 years you can see you're well shot of him. If not, you will.
As far as the question goes, I don't understand why anyone over 15 wants or cares about presents. Each to their own, I suppose.

[PankySmooch]

Have to agree with Svejk there kat-kin, that must've been awful, what a *** to do that but at least you're rid of him now.

[Cloverjo]

I think men in general don't get things like this. For my last milestone birthday OH said he'd take me to the US Open tennis, which was a wonderful thought, but it was me who had to sit at the computer for hours trying to find decent seats.

[lcg]

it is not on - he should have made an effort. so should your children - travel is possible that time of year and although i am a nurse i didn't work xmas/new year, but took the day of my dad's birthday off and we got together to have a quiet, joint mid-xmas dinner. a 50th should be marked, so even finding a restaurant/pub/nice place to eat is de rigeur for that type of birthday. your plan of getting yourself something nice is a good one, but you should also be able to make your feelings known that they let you down. sometimes it feels like you are mum/wife/cook/cleaner etc. for 364 days a year and it smarts when that 1 day which belongs to you passes by without fuss......make it a very nice present!