Massive Fallout With My Family Had To Report Dad To Gp For Driving While Ill With Heart Issues

[gordiescotland1]

I am majorly stressed I have had a massive bustup with my family. I had to make a decision that was very difficult and have had massive backlash. I am so stressed it is unbelievable. Last Friday my dad told me that when he was driving on the motorway to help my over dependent sister at 53 on a 200 mile round trip. he thought he was going to pass out and his heart was irregular. He pulled in on the hard shoulder until he felt better. He then went on to the services and had something to drink until he thought he could go on. This caused me great concern. This has been happeneing sporadically on and off in the house but never on the road, he has had several ECGs at GP but nothing showed up. I have told and told my mother to ring 999 when it happens so they can get a recording when its happening. I did not know that on Monday he was going through again with my mother. My mother phoned me on Monday from my sisters and told me that it had happened again. And he had to pull over gasping for breath and dizzy, this caused me so much concern that I made an appointment with my GP who is the same as my dads that afternoon and told him what had been happening I did this for fear that my dad might have a crash, kill my mother himself or God forbid an innocent driver. I had no choice. I told my uncle and he backs me 100%, like my sister in law in England who is a GP. My uncles son was killed my cousin 4 years in Australia and his friend both pedestrians, was paralysed with spinal injuries after a driver lost control of the car after suffering an episode of SVT and fainted at the wheel and hit the accelator but she had been feeling ill for weeks. My GP was most concerned and told me to tell them he had not to drive until GP had seen him and if he didn’t phone within 24 hours he would phone him. I told my sister this and asked her to drive him home and the response was violent telling me I had no right to interfere in something like this and I was a meddler and a snitch. I do not regret what I did. She did drive him home and her partner drove his car home. For the next 24 hours we exchanged violent messages on texts she sent me 72 she told me how stupid useless and awful I was and that I have not worked for years. It ended with her telling me she never wanted to see me again and I was dead to her. I am quite happy with that I will never speak to her again, I changed my number. My uncle is acting reluctantly as a go between me and my parents not spoken to my parents for 3 days I have been told that they don’t want to see me and to get out of their lives, fine maybe I need to stand on my own two feet we live 1 mile away and I have been there for meals a lot but this silence has never happened. He has been to the GP and been referred urgently to cardiology. GP suspects atrial fibrillation or mitral valve problem. He is banned from driving temporarily until he knows what is happening. I was not expecting this backlash. Another worry is my sister is divorced and living with a new partner who is financially controlling and manipulative all she does is phone mum telling her how much she hates him and miserable she is, dad is worried sick, my brother tells me that it was his birthday last weekend and all dad did was talk about how worried he was about my sister. I still have her email addresss I want to email her and tell her to stop bothering mum and dad and to put up and shutup or get out of the relationship. I told her by text nobody likes her boyfriend and if my dad dies of a heart attack it is her fault, all the stress she has put him under. I am worried that this will send him over the edge. I am not planning on going to see them as there is tension between mum and me and we argue quite a bit so its not good for dad to be around that. I just feel I am cracking up went to GP and he has given me sleeping pills. Did I do the right thing? I am certain I did but with all this animosity I am beginning to wonder

[chanel5]

Yes, I believe that you did the right thing. If you did nothing, and a tragedy happened as a results of your father taking ill on the road, think how you would feel about that. You have prevented a potential tragedy. But this has not been recognised and now you are suffering a huge emotional upset as a result.
Try to ride out this storm, as best you can, and if at the end of it there are still those in your family who will not speak to you, then you must adjust your life to accommodate this.
It can be done. I know this for sure, because my sister does not speak to me, neither does my husband. I deliberately try to remember to look upon that as their loss.
Best wishes with repairing what you can of your family relationships. However, if some or many of them cannot be repaired, you should never, never regret what you did - because what you did was what needed to be done. Good for you.