Am I Lesbian?

[chanmi24]

Hello.....i dont know if i always had a gay tendency, but i am a tomboy so... Ok lets start: i am girl and i am 13. I discovered kpop 1 year ago when i was 12 and until i discovered kpop i've never question my sexuality. I discovered a lot of kpop boy bands with very handsome boys and yes, i felt in love with some of them but no, not to much. It was just the love in that moment or day but when i discovered girl groups i just felt in love with them more than boys....since 6 months i am so in love with a member of a past group and she is just too perfect for this planet...i know it is so weird but please dont judge me...and im so in love that i sometimes cry when i see her with boys... i have never been in love like this....i am almost depressed because i love her to much and my love is growing up every day. I dont know what to do...i know i will never meet her because i live in europe, far away from South Korea...i just wanna know your opinions, you think im lesbian? Please dont laugh at this....

[B00]

"you think im lesbian? "

doubt it, probably just a girl crush, I had such a one with Madonna in my youth!

But even if you were, nothing to be alarmed about, especially at 13.

[wildwood]

If you still feel the same way when you're 18, then you may be. Many girls (and boys) in their teens like to 'experiment' but it usually settles down when they reach adulthood.

[MallyJ]

Give yourself a break and stop worrying about it now...all will become clear as you get older... but we often have crushes on people of the same sex in our teens ..or crushes on the opposite sex or no crushes at all....don't rush to label yourself....time will tell.

[jourdain2]

Probably not. More than likely it is a 'crush'. At the same age I was besotted with Dusty Springfield. Usually it is a phase, which most of us go through - a form of hero (or heroine) worship. As others have said, wait. I would say that 21 would bring you certainty one way or another.

[tonyav]

What is kpop ?.

[Mamyalynne]

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/K-pop

[tonyav]

Thanks Mamya.

[Mamyalynne]

You're welcome Tony.

[birdie1971]

Chanmi24

You might be a lesbian. But then again, you might not be. Don't worry about it. It matters not one jot. The person you ultimately fall in love with is not a conscience decision you make. Girl or boy, it's not really your choice. Go with it however it leads you.

You're probably going through a 'crush'. People talk about 'crushes' in a sometimes condescending manner. They shouldn't. I had crushes at your age and I know just how real they are. They hurt.

However, the bad news is that there's no quick fix. Nothing I (or anyone else can say) will make you feel better. You've just got to just ride it out. Painful as it may be, you'll emerge at at the other end a better person and more emotionally mature.


Chanmi24 - “... Please dont laugh at this....”

No one's laughing at you. Good luck.