Thank You

[weecalf]

Is there any one who you have never said thanks to but wish you had. A great friend of mine died without him actually knowing how much he had done for me because he was a genuine good fellow .I thought the world of him but actually never said...Thank you.

[grasscarp]

If he was your friend he no doubt knew you appreciated him. We don't tend to say thanks to friends as it is understood.

[weecalf]

Agree with you he would prob have been embarrassed .But still .

[Mamyalynne]

So often when we are close to people the thanks are implied but you are quite right - it is nice to put them into words at least now and then rather than wait till the chance has gone.


I am sure your friend knew you cared.

[gness]

I have a friend whose funeral I helped finalise a few weeks ago...he's not dead or dying..but we both like things in order....☺

When I got home I thought of what I would want to say at his funeral...he is the best friend anyone could have...but I wanted him to know.....not be telling it to his wicker coffin with him dead and in his anti Maggie Thatcher tee shirt.

So I wrote to him....and the letter of reply I got told me it was the right thing to do.......thank you means so much.......x

[TWR]

Thanks are just words Weecalf, that' how I address it, to be there with open ears, to be there when your needed, & never have you door closed, that's how my friends know me.

[ummmm]

Thanks 'can' be just words but not always. You can tell when someone means it.

[Peter Pedant]

I try to thank in life as I know it is so rare. One official dinner I was the only one of forty who did so...

some people find it hard 'to take the compliment' so I usually just say: take the compliment.

I am thanked so rarely that I cant remember what I did in response last time ( titter, blush, say oh no really.... simper, give a speech, combination of all four )

[grasscarp]

Not a friend but I recently contacted a bus company about their charming young oriental lady who greets each passenger with a huge smile and a good morning. They were very appreciative and told her and put my thanks on her file. I think appreciation always a good thing among a sea of usual complaints.

[weecalf]

Saying thanks is not a payment for kindness, its just an expression of gratitude .Agree people don't do it for thanks but saying it is a form of kindness to .

[Retrochic]

I don't understand this. Are people saying that if a friend does something for you and is really kind (like take you to hospital,look after your children, help you out when you are ill) you don't thank them? Because they don't expect it? I could never accept help or support and not thank someone, surely its good manners if nothing else?

[weecalf]

Good, point but what I was saying ,not each kind act but overall thank you for being who and what you are.

[woofgang]

Retro when the huge awful things happen, you can be so stricken or caught up in dealing with it that, yes, its possible to "forget" to say thank you.

[Retrochic]

Oh I understand now - appreciation rather than thanks.

[Retrochic]

woofgang I don't agree at all with that. I cannot imagine any situation, including bereavement, where a simple 'thankyou for all your help it is truly appreciated' would be difficult to 'remember'. I find it hard to comprehend how some people find it necessary to 'remember' to say thank you - guess some people are just brought up differently to others.

[woofgang]

Retrochic, if you haven't been there don't comment. Weeks later i said my thank you's but at the time, it just wasn't in my head.

[Retrochic]

woofgang how do you know I haven't 'been there'. Tell me where you've 'been' that is so catastrophic you can't say thank you (save you were in a coma then that could be forgiven)

[woofgang]

We are going to disagree on this one.