I'm Sad Because...

[gness]

...not to really spoil Rebecca's thread.....

While I was hugging an old (and much younger) friend tonight because it looks like her cancer may just be beaten...Lord I hope so.... she whispered in my ear....

Have you heard about S.... a mutual friend.....her cancer is terminal and she wants us to visit her but not cry.....

And I thought....sh**....why do we get so strung up about silly things and not live life to the full while we can......

And....wine.....a bag of minstrels and an old ciggie makes you feel sick.....☺

[anneasquith]

and you go and visit S, you don't cry until you get home, .

[boxtops]

Too right, gness - that sort of thing gives you a realisation about what's really important in life....

[sherrardk]

With you on that Gness - life's too short to worry about eating chocolate, what others think about us, petty one-upmanship on here, the list goes on. Sorry about your friend but pleased for your other friend, xxx

[mazie]

I have no idea why people get strung up about silly things... A lifetime of seeing heartache makes you realise that life should be grabbed an shaken for all it's worth... You'll be fine gness and be sure to give it some when you visit your friend xx

[Slapshot]

it's the one that keeps hitting us all isn't it... someday they'll rid us of it!!

Go with your friend G and be there for the other one then come home, have a blub and a glass or two and another ciggie G xx

[askyourgran]

Visit her gness, I regret not visiiting my SIL just before she went into the hospice for the last time. And it was only because I couldn't think of something to say to her without her thinking it was the last goodbye. I still don't know what I could have said but I just wish I'd had the courage to hold her hand and talk a while.

[Mamyalynne]

Only last week a very dear friend and neighbour died - he had been told the week before that what he thought was a growth on his face was but the outward signs of cancer throughout him . They told him ,he had just months, he wasn't having that he was far too vibrant a man......I feel sure he just turned off and tuned out a matter of days after they told him that.

I feel nothing but pride at having known him and will remember him with great joy.

Much love to your friends G - the visit will be fine.♥

[marval]

It at times like this that you realise what is important. I am sure it is alright to have a good blub after you have seen her.

[gness]

Thank you all....you're a nice bunch....☺

The friend who is dying and I met when we were fifteen. Her first husband was killed at twenty three and, much later, she met a great chap. He died four years ago and she hasn't recovered....just wants to go to be with him....

I'll visit and our humour and memories will see us through....but that and what the friend who is hopefully recovering has been through has brought me up a bit short tonight....xx

Eating a *** bag of Minstrels wasn't a good idea though!

[gness]

Blimey....starred again....and I'm not a swearer.....will revert to feckin'....☻

[anneasquith]

I like feckin !

[gness]

I don't know how to answer that, Anne!.... ;-)

[Jeza]

Gness, I feel for you. Life at times is a true ***. Visit her, reminisce with her and save your tears for later. Hard I know.

[gness]

Jeza....I'll be fine....just get a bit *** off with those who get strung up about such little things when some have real things to deal with...as you well know....Anyway...how are you?...xx

[anneasquith]

'' I don't know how to answer that anne'',,,,,,,,,,, got me a :) though, :)

[Slapshot]

Reality is hard G but some people like to wallow in what they see as a reality, they are the ones who never have to deal with hard issues, who have the wealth and health never to bother about anything trivial. You'll find they don't find humour in silliness but deride those who do....... you can bet your last penny that the daft among us do so as a way of dealing with things no-one should have to deal with.

I play the fool because it stops me getting depressed, it stops me dwelling on life events that sap my energy and strength.

We're with ya G xx

[gness]

And a best answer because you sent my mind a-wanderin'...and because it'll be there for all to see!....x

[anneasquith]

TITTERING :)

[gness]

Slappy....and that should have...very best answer....so true.....I think sometimes I feel that my humour is seen as not caring or being flippant.....in fact that has been said on here and quite hurtfully...but it's not.

It is my defence otherwise I would go under....xx

[askyourgran]

ooohhh wash your mouth out annasquith. ;o)