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everthere | 09:25 Wed 02nd Apr 2014 | People & Places
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At the moment I am really confused about a friend which mean a lot to me.

Anway, we had a fight wereas he later said that I am predictable like an animal.
He did not talk with me for days, then slowley and in single sentences wrote me again.

Some minutes ago he send me ths question, which I find can be answered in different ways.

“So what does a person like me do when i have an Associates of Science Degree in Criminal Justice, Bachelor’s of Arts in Philosophy and Ancient History, a Masters of Arts in History and soon another Masters of Arts in Security Management from AMU?”

What I answered was:
you increase your knowledge, you learn new things, get degrees in different fields.

This mean that you also increase your chance for better jobs, better payed jobs.

You are prepared to change if you have to do, be flexible in every direction.
Not only about what you are able to do but also your mind.

You develop yourself to the next level, accomplish things, evolve your life and that of others.
Strive forward and get the best human you can be.

He responded that I did not understand the question and if I ever pay attention to detail
or if I just go through life reacting by instinct like an animal.

Do I just not get it? What could he have been ment with this question?

I would be happy to hear (read) some suggestions to this topic.

Thanks
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No idea. Your answer sounds fine to me.
09:27 Wed 02nd Apr 2014
No idea. Your answer sounds fine to me.
imo it sounds as though he is trying to belittle you by saying you do not understand. Did he mean, what direction should his professional life now take? He has made a point of stating the various degree's he already has - perhaps the answer should have been If 'you are so clever, figure it out for yourself'
He is comparing you to an animal? Does he often put you 'in your place' like this? If so, then he is not the nicest person to have as a friend and I certainly wouldn't stand for it.
“So what does a person like me do when i have an Associates of Science Degree in Criminal Justice, Bachelor’s of Arts in Philosophy and Ancient History, a Masters of Arts in History and soon another Masters of Arts in Security Management from AMU?”

That's not a Question !
That's just bragging about what qualifications he has.
I would suggest that you both get a life !
i hope i have the instincts of a tiger, but probably more slothlike....

That's from a Friend?
He may have a number of degrees but he doesn't understand animals if he thinks they're predictable. It sounds to me he's a condescending know it all and only asked the question to show his supposed superiority. Ditch him.
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First, thank you all for your reply so far.

I maybe have to add that English is not my first language.
I thought that I maybe did not really understand his question.

This friend has to live with bipolar and your answers show me
that he still is in this special state where he is highly irritable.

He is very smart and normally a very nice and supportive person.
I suspect the answer should have been to stop being a permanent student and go get a job. But I also suspect he question was about what job to go for. Your answer was more of a general life strategy answer.

It sounds to me that a social skill course may be of benefit to your friend.
i suspect he is still angry about your fight and he is trying to let you know you shouldnt challenge him as he is more intelligent than you

he does not sound like a good friend

some people react badly when they row, especially if deep down they know they were wrong, so instead of just letting it go or apologising they try to reinforce the things they said during the row, to let you know that they actually meant them.

i would just be as rude back to him - you sound quite timid and he seems to think he can speak to you anyway you like

say to him - well if i didn't understand the question, as you have written it, then you must not have made it very clear - ask him to resend the message and this time to add more of a clue as to what he means than merely asking 'what should i do now' ... because really thats all his actually question amounted to.

or just tell him you dont know ... refuse to engage in his power games
From what you have written, he didn't actually finish his question "what should he do"... but under what circumstances, what should he do about -- what?

Being highly academic doesn't necessarily make him more employable - a raft of degrees doesn't guarantee anyone a job these days.

He's quite rude to you, too - you need to stop accepting what he tells you. Many animals are highly intelligent (and I doubt they would have understood the question, either).

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