To Give Or Not To Give...

Chasingcars | 13:24 Wed 03rd Sep 2014 | Gift Ideas

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One of the girls at work is due to get married shortly.
I have known her for 3 years worked with her on and off for a couple so wasnt expected to be invited to the wedding or reception.
However, it seems the rest of the people on my office floor are going as is most of the rest of the office, including people who have been with company less time.
Im not overly worried about not going to the wedding but im more worried that i have been excluded specifically and i always thought we got on. I know its probably down to numbers, and i am a bit older than a lot of thr group, but cant help but wonder. Anyway should i get a gift or not? Part of me feels like i should, but then part of me thinks a card would suffice, afterall if we are no close enough to share the day, would she expect a gift?
I was only planning a John Lewis gift card or similar and had thought around £25.00?

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mccfluff

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i wouldn't bother with a card either

13:40 Wed 03rd Sep 2014

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gness

Chasingcars.....I worked in a unit attached to a school...one of the young teachers was getting married but made it clear that only the teachers were going to be invited.....those of us in the unit.... and her classroom assistant who was fantastic and helped her far beyond the call of duty were not.
The problem really was the cocky way she announced it to us in the staff room.....

She did however ask me to plan her hen night....I'm good at that sort of thing....and I was asked to contribute to her present.....I did neither.

I can't really see that you need to give anything other than a card...and not a gift card.....x

Chasingcars

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Thanks gness, its funny actually as a few months ago she was chatting in the office quite loudly, saying things along the lines of 'x asked if they going to my wedding and i said no not everyone will be getting an invite'...i dont know if that was aimed at me or not, but again she said it in quite a gobby manner as if everyone wanted to come to her wedding!! As i said i didnt expect to be invited, but seems odd that nearly everyone else i sit with has been asked. Maybe a card is enough then!

grasscarp

A card is more than enough in the circumstances!

mallyh

i wouldn't even bother with a card x

Mamyalynne

Yes,I agree a card and wishes for a happy future will suffice.

woofgang

its simple, no invitation, no nothing.

mccfluff

i wouldn't bother with a card either

gness

If you do give a card fill it with glitter and stars....flipping pain when it's opened and it scatters all over the floor....☺

janbee

Under the circumstances, I wouldn't even give her a card. If you do though, then make sure it is NOT a gift card. !!

Baby_Sham

I'd begrudgingly get a card, but definitely not a gift.
I also wouldn't worry about not getting an invite to the wedding... but then I hate weddings :)

grasscarp

and write on the inside - this card has a past and a future but no present.

Prudie

If it is as you say then I probably wouldn't give a card of any type either. If it's like my office there will very likely be a card going round for all to sign, that would be enough. Unless you feel magnanimous.

naomi24

I'd give a card and a little gift.

Bazile

//Im not overly worried about not going to the wedding but im more worried that i have been excluded specifically and i always thought we got on//

Why are you worried - is she in a position of influence with respect to your job ?

If for whatever reason i was not invited - then i wouldn't bother giving anything