Is My Fwb Catching Feelings? Or What

AntoniaMarie | 04:33 Wed 26th Nov 2014 | Body & Soul

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my fwb is a coworker that I've known for a year now. We work opposite shifts so if anything were to happen I would never see him. Anyway, we agreed to be loyal *** friends (this is what he called it) so we've been seeing each other about twice a week. I asked him a month after we Started this what he meant by loyal and he said not to sleep with other people and laughed. He doesn't want a commited relationship, at least not so soon. He said not to think that far ahead Yet but I know he's not a fan of commitment. We use condoms every time we have sex but Doesn't wAnt me to sleep around? And doesn't want a relationship? I'm confused. When we get ready for bed we talk before, and his leg or foot has to be touching me. Like he stopped in Mid sentence before just to his leg underneath mine and then continue to talk. He says in his only *** buddy And I believe him because he works a lot and has three kids to take care of on his off day. Is he catching feelings? Or doesn't want to rush things? He calls me here and there just to talk and we get a long great. I keep reading online that it's possesiveness but idk

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waterboatman

I think you'd be better off without him as he seems to want everything on his terms. Are you sure he's not seeing someone else as well? Control freak comes to mind.

AntoniaMarie

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I'm pretty sure. He shows me signs that makes me think he likes me. Like the whole Having to be touching me to converse, and he starts my car up for me every morning I stay the night. (Because he works early) he cuddles me sometimes and we kiss a lot during intercourse. Also this may be too much, but we tried anal, and he would try to make me feel comfortable as best as he could it was kind of sweet, like he was kiss the back of my neck softly and the back of my shoulders and Caress my Back like he knows it kind of hurts me in the beginning so he tries to calm me down or whatever. I thought it was nice of him. He's not only thinking of himself he's think of me too. Plus, we are friends on Facebook and he sees the things guys post on my pictures and he will ask questions about it and act jealous but not in an angry way. I just don't know if he's catching feelings or just wants me all to himself. I'm 20 and he's 35 doesn't look it or act like it. We would actually Look good as a couple

waterboatman

15 years difference. you say he has three children. Is he divorced? It's good that he is gentle with you, I would expect no less. But something isn't ringing true.

grasscarp

Find yourself someone who is your own age and single for a real relationship. He has a wife and 3 children and a bit on the side - which is all you are.

waterboatman

Blunt. But true GC. That's what I was leading up to.

AntoniaMarie

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Sorry I didnt add that he was never married. Three kids were from the same mom. Which is good, he was with her for a while and then was with another girl for about 6 years and they broke up in June and she moved back to her home state. Me And him just started a month ago on this fwb he normally doesn't go for younger girls. We just hit it off well at work and it got to messaging on Facebook then hanging out "like that" one morning He was up and didn't have to work he was in the living room watching tv and I woke up talked with him for a bit then went back to bed. 5-10 minutes later he was like "babe you hungry?" I told him no and he was like "you sure?" And then before I left that day he was like you sure you don't want to get something to eat? Did you get your cigarettes? Got your purse? Idk just really caring sometimes...I know the age is a bit much but I am mature for my age and have been through some *** and I think he can see that in me. My friends always said I'm like an older women in a younger women's body lol but anyway.

AntoniaMarie

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So you both think he isn't catching feelings? I appreciate your responses and your time.

waterboatman

As I said earlier Antonia. Something is not right. Why did he leave the mum of his children? Why did he leave the other girl? How long will it be bore he's had all he wants from you and wonders off to someone else?

AntoniaMarie

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That's why I'm questioning this because why would someone not want their *** buddy to have sex with other people even though we use condoms EVERY TIME. But also isn't a fan of commitment..

waterboatman

I'm glad you can see that Antonia. It has to be your choice, but if you want my advice I would suggest you steer well clear of this bloke. he's going to hurt you just as soon as he gets bored with you. And he will!

AntoniaMarie

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Good question, i guess they tried To stay together for the sake of their kids but couldn't I guess they were both guilty of sleeping around on each other a couple times. They seemed happy together they tried for their last child. Whatever it was, he said it was a mutual agreement. His ex for 6 years was too Much to handle always stole things and did meth in her twenties. She Had trust issues and would always think he was doing something idk. I guess she would yell when they would have a disagreement on something in front of his kids. He said it was a mistake from the beginning and that she was totally unstable. & he's actually pretty calm and like a loner.

AntoniaMarie

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ThanK you!

waterboatman

That's what he's told you Antonia. If you ask the mum of his children I'm sure she will tell a very different story. As will any other girlfriends he's had. I'm sure there are a lot more than two!

You're welcome. I don't like to see people taken advantage of in this way. I've seen it so many times.

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