Friend had a fling

[missclaire73]

I just found out my friend had a fling she is married with one child she is 45 years old and when she had this fling she was 43 the lad she had a fling with was 18 years old i am quite disgusted by her and i want to tell her husband.
what do you think i should do?

[joko]

miss claire - its seems you are the one talking rubbish - not one person agrees with you.

you sound bitter and jealous.
i agree its bad of her - but why do you care?

you asked 'what gives her the right?' well the same thing that gives you the right to interfere... because you feel like it...

she does not need 'rights' to have an affair -she simply wanted to, so she did - 'rights' dont come into it - she is entitled to do whatever she wants...she does not need permission - it might be wrong, and cruel and have terrible consequences etc - but she can still do it.

if she is such a bad friend then stop being her friend.
if you tell her husband it also makes you a bad friend

i am not supporting her - but what is there to gain by getting involved other than upsetting everyone? she has already ended it so what else can she do?

as someone else said - if you do tell prepare to loose her and her husband ad friends - and possibly a few other mates who will think you are a b!tch

[pastafreak]

You say she is a hypocrite because she's shopped someone else for the same thing. Was this before or after her own indiscretion? Maybe it was a way to absolve her own guilt.
In the end,it is none of your business,and it is not for you to disclose this to her husband.
By the way...did she tell you-or did you hear it from others?

[VHG]

Lots of things go on inside marriages that those of us outside the marriage dont know about.

It is not up to us to moralise or put our values on another persons marriage.

You dont know if the husband was unfaithful first and she is getting her own back, you dont know if the husband has lost interest in sex and "allows" her to have affairs outside the marriage and so on.

Nobody will thank you for getting involved and you are likely to be seen as an interfering busybody.

Just concentrate on your own life and family and make sure you are doing everything right.

If you do that you wont have time to worry about other peoples lives.

[jno]

wise words, VHG

[Baldric]

http://www.theanswerb...Question896217-2.html

[maggiebee]

Think you should keep your mouth shut. Absolutely nothing to do with you.

[boxtops]

it's none of your business, none at all. Yes it's wrong to be adulterous, but why be disgusted that it was an 18-year-old - it wouldn't be any better if the bloke was 68. What the hell good do you think it would do, telling her husband, apart from making you feel smug?

[Baldric]

Is her husband the friend you kissed and wanted more of ?

^^^^^^^^^^see my link above^^^^^^^

[karenmac60]

I got the feeling there was more to this too. Are you after your friend's husband missclaire? Are you trying to break them up so you can have him and she gets to be the bad guy? Just leave it alone.

[vodkancoke]

I think missclaire wants to tell the hubby hoping they will split up and become a "shoulder to cry on" for him....classy!

[Le Chat]

Missclaire, sounds like the Jeremy Khyle Show are missing you!!

[NOX]

You sound like a thoroughly repulsive pack of self serving, bitter unpleasant people hell bent on messing up your so called ' friends' lives. I personally don't think any of you understand what the word ' friend' actually means or you wouldn't need to ask such vaccuous, jeuveneile questions.

[welshlibranr]

stay out of it!..............not your business, you won't be thanked, believe me!........

[JonnyBoy12]

With friends like that who needs enemies?

I think that we all agree that it would break up a marriage and you would lose a friend by shopping her.

What you do not know you don't grieve over.