Hiding my pregnancy....please help

[Schlomo78]

My fiancee has a 6yr old from a previous relationship. I am 15 wks pregnant&he will be moving to live with me.We had his daughter over the weekend so had her come to my house so she can see what its like,though he hasn't told her he will be moving.His mums said its best to leave it closer to the time to tell her about the baby as its a long way away&though me and my partner talked about it last wk&he said he would tell her,he still refused to because of what his mother said. I wasn't small to begin with&its pretty obvious that I'm pregnant,I have an obvious bump, but I had to pull my jeans over it and wear baggy jumpers to hide it&he seemed to completely forget I was pregnant himself &made no reference to it to me either. I havnt had a great pregnancy by all accounts &have had to come off my anti-depressants as they may be harmful to baby, so have been having a monster time of it with my hormones&depression ganging up on me.

I really resented the fact that I have to hide what is supposed to be something wonderful, I had to hide my scan picture,baby magazines&all baby stuff i.e crib,baby clothes,bouncer,pushchair away at a friends house,eveything had to be cleared away so his daughter wouldn't see& there was to be no reference to baby at all. I ended up in tears at1point when his daughter was in bed&told him I felt like I was a dirty secret to be hidden&that he was ashamed of the fact I was pregnant. He said he understood&he would tell her,but still didnt when he was with her by himself.I feel so low&horrible because of it&even feel like I am beginning to resent being pregnant at all&wish it wasn't happening.I can feel my depression creeping back.He has no plans to tell her soon, in another month I will be huge!How am I supposed to hide it then? Get a girdle?! Am I wrong to feel this way?He just doesnt seem to care about my feelings at all. :o(

[Schlomo78]

Hi lilacben,thanks for your concern,have just been sorting things through with Mr Schlomo and everything is starting to look like its getting sorted thank god. Thanks to Bikerbabe also for your post, I am hanging in there guys!! :O)

[lilacben]

Thankyou for answering Schlomo pleased to hear you are alright. got me very worried being as you hadnt been too well. Glad to hear you have been sorting things out with our half.I am really hoping you can sort things out with him.Take a look at the scan of your baby together, that is a real baby with a tiny heart beating, a tiny heart that will give you unconditional love now and alwas.that is something the three of you should be sharing now and over the months , and then forever. please keep in touch. Good luck! B xx

[sam1368]

i agree with telling the child now.i got with my now husband and he had a 7 year old daughter and we told her after 3 month mark it was hard at first as she was the only child with both parents for all this time then we had a baby girl but she was fine she loved her from the start you just need to make sure you let her help you like feeding and bath time.she now has 2 sisters from us and 1 from her mum.

[lilacben]

It has been so long now since last heard from you. are you ok.? Bx