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Removing the fathers name off your childs Birth cerificate
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I can appreciate the anger that you feel at your son's father, but this is not an appropriate response.
Your son's birth certific ate is just that - his birth certificate, not a forum for you to exprcise your own feelings at his father's actions, or rather lack of them.
I'm pretty sure you can't alter registration information after completion, but in any case, your son deserves to have complete documentation about his birth, for his own future use.
Acknowledgement of parenthood does not begin and end with registrtation of birth - my two older daughters both have their father's name on their certificates, but they know who their Dad is - and so do I, a piece of paper appropriate at the time doesn't change that.
Can fully understand where you are coming from, i have a son born oct 03 and the father just likes to stick his oar in where it isnt wanted, he runs from the csa and so for the past 2yrs i have brought my son up on my own and with out a pennys help from the ratbag.
Despite this, and my feelings of anger, nobody can take away who my sons father is, and i would rather have a name on the certificate than no name at all.
You also have to remember that however angry we feel over this that our children have no concept on whats going on, and in future you never know but contact may comeabout and a relationship be formed with the dad...who knows....In that case wouldnt it be in the interest of the child to have the name on certificate?
The father of my son really has no interest in his son, he appears on the scene when things arnt going right in his life, so therfore we get used. he has paid about �200 totally over last 2 yrs and doesnt even know if his son can talk yet or not. Grrrrrr.....but hey, move on and forget the loosers!
Agree with all that has been said .. and bear in mind that things can change ... even years later he may change and realise what he has and regret his actions, particularly if he is quite young. Even if he never changes, he is part of your son's life and it is best to let him at least think that it was circumstances beyond his control that stopped him seeing his son, rather than he just wasn't interested, rather than telling your son that he has a father that doesn't care. That would be the really loving thing to do.
sorry to be harsh and blunt - but FOR GODS SAKE!! dont be so selfish. ok you dont get on with the childs father. but he is the childs father still, whether you love him, like him or even know him! imagine it was your father. imagine you grew up and had no male name on your birth certificate. thats just not fair on your child to just make half his history a mystery.
oh, and i don't think it is possible to remove a name anyway.
my sons fathers name isnt on his birth certificate, we split when i was pregnant, his father has never been involved in his life and my son has never asked for his birth cetificate.
nowadays the birth certificates are so small and have no info on them anyway like mine does. if you did get it removed, which i doubt you can, i wouldnt blame you, if hes a crap dad why on earth should he have any right to your son later in life. youre the one doing the hard graft now bringing him up on your own. good luck in wotever you choose to do.
Ps: no offence nobody.
none of us know the cercunstances behind the split and i believe that if theres violenece involved or the father/mother hasnt been involved for a number of years then they should have the right to be removed after all to be a father/mother you have to be in the childs life. :)
yes im furious at my ex but all i want is to b able to bring my boy up with no added stress of worrying wat my ex can mess up for me next through the fact of him having parental responsibility. my ex doesnt no my lil boy n nor is he pulling his finger out to no him. he's just pulling his finger out to annoy me n cause me hassle which is the last thing a mum needs. but i suppose at the end of the day he gave me the most precious thing in my life. its so hard for women. n men just dont get wat we have to deal with , tht we get use to dealing with because they wont do it.