part time work

[HongKongphooey]

My daughter is 17, she has a part time job in a pub, 5 miles away on Sundays, which i have to drive her to and pick her up. My partner (her stepdad) works 6 days a week and gets Sundays off. He wants my daughter to give up her job, and look for one nearby, because he says me taking and picking her up means we can't do anything on a Sunday. I can't afford driving lessons for her and even if she passed her driving test, I couldn't afford the car or insurance for her.
Neither of them will back down, and there has been a terrible row about it. I just want everyone to be happy.

[boxtops]

What are the options - is there public transport she could take?

[HongKongphooey]

The pub is in a small village, a bus runs to a village a mile away from it, but none on a Sunday.

[bednobs]

why can't she do things the other way round? look for a job, then leave? has she left school?

[IggyB]

I think its a bit much to expect you to drop her off and collect her, if she can't get a lift then its probably about a 30 minutes cycle ride... Depending on the number of hills etc

[tenrec]

Could she change her night/day?

[IggyB]

Even if she cycle or got a taxi every so often you and your partner could have some Sundays to yourself

[HongKongphooey]

Its not a permanent job, its just to give her some spending money before she goes to university. She's going to talk to her boss and explain the problem, it would help if she could change to a night in the week.

[Tilly2]

When she goes to Uni, you and your husband will have loads of time to yourself.

[douglas9401]

Why not try a Sunday night out in the pub?

[ojread2]

I think your husband is being very unreasonable, especially given it's only until September, or whenever they go to Uni
He is also selfish - your daughter is plenty old enough to be left alone at night time so you and he can have some couple time.
Douglas' suggestion is a really good one as well
He'd soon moan if she wasn't working

[silliemillie]

If its only till September I think he is being unreasonable.
You should be proud she is working, you are probably spending more in petrol than she earns but thats not the point.

you are being a good mum helping her be independant, she could have easily gone the other way and said she couldnt get a job cos she has not got transport.
In the meantime she could try for jobs nearer home but not give up the job she has till then.

[lcg]

er...why can't she cycle? it's only 5 miles and it might make her take responsibility for getting a new one nearby.....all by herself. my son has worked since he was 13 and now cycles that distance 3 times a week to work in a supermarket, while he studies at uni. i told him from an early age i would not financially support him after the age of 16 (because i'm so skint) so he did something about it and understood completely. the use of a bicycle will give you the time you need and save on petrol.

[ladyalex]

What did you do on Sundays as a couple before she had
the job ?

[flicrat]

lcg would you want a daughter cycling home late at night? It is a bit different for sons.(Am assuming it is a job into the evening. Maybe not.)