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Am I being stupid?

Normally I have no problem with men. But reading this latest one scares me because I seem to have it so wrong AND I really like him!! we met a few weeks ago for a drink and the goodnight kiss certainly had a spark to it. We met a couple of times afterwards and it was clear that keeping our hands off each other was going to be difficult. Anyway, we met for lunch on Friday and we ended up in bed - he eventually left on Sat evening. Since then, apart from a text to say he got home safely, nothing. I've backed off but so has he!!! I don't want to play games, but he is a lovely guy and I just don't know where to go from here. I know it is only Sat since we last saw each other but am I being stupid in expecting some form of communication between then and now, even if it is a quick "how are you?"? Or should I just accept that he has what he wanted and I should move on?! In which case, why didn't he go on Sat morning rather than spending the whole day here?!!!!

HelenaM Mon 27/10/08 23:39

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no.knowledge
Mon 27/10/08
23:42

he obviously wanted another go!

Ice.Maiden
Mon 27/10/08
23:45

Ho many times had you been on a date with him before he stayed over?

mccfluff
Mon 27/10/08
23:46

send him a text and ask him if he wants to meet up for drink or lunch sometime this weeksand see what he say's. if you get nothing back then i think he may of just been after a shag, sorry - but i hope not

Ice.Maiden
Mon 27/10/08
23:49

Sorry - my keyboard missed the "w" out!!
I agree with mccfluff - send him a text now that a couple of days've lapsed, and ask how he is. see what happens from there.

pastafreak
Mon 27/10/08
23:54

And keep it simple...warm without sounding too eager

homedeeth
Tue 28/10/08
08:48

there are a few posts like this i've noticed recently. women thinking they've found a nice man only to realise he wants one thing then ******* off without a trace!
it's pretty selfish to think that they don't want to know AFTER they've got their oats!

onlyme26
Tue 28/10/08
13:15

aww im sorry to hear that,

well you say he hasnt been in touch with you, but maybe he is thinkng the same! maybe he is waiting for to make the moves! he may be sitting at home waiting and thinking you only wanted one thing,

best thing to do is just text casually asking how he is and see how he answers, if he is short and off then i would just forget him, but he may be really pleased to hear from you and could lead to more dates!!!

good luck xx

esther-ami
Wed 29/10/08
00:07

onlyme, I doubt many men would sit there and think "oh I've been used" after he slept with a woman lol

sorry HelenaM, but he sounds like a typical man. Got what he wanted and thats it.

A.Guest
Wed 29/10/08
00:10

It sounds like HelenaM got what she wanted at the time too.

It takes two to tango.

esther-ami
Wed 29/10/08
00:13

point taken. but bet he is not sitting there wondering why she didnt call huh!

A.Guest
Wed 29/10/08
00:14

Very true esther

trt
Wed 29/10/08
00:25

I agree with you A.Guest,

Why do women think that the guy is just after one thing.

If a women is going to have sex after a couple of meetings with a bloke, she obviously wants it as well and maybe she does it every week-end with other guys.

esther-ami
Wed 29/10/08
00:31

guessing you are a man then

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