my b/f let it slip that he went to Amsterdam on a works do, went to a strip bar, and this woman ended up doing a total strip dance for him. He said he didnt ask for it.
Having never been to a strip bar before, I dont know how it works. Do they just strip off completely anyway?
esther-ami Mon 06/10/08 23:21
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Yes, the girls often strip off completely. These type of places are ten a penny in Amsterdam, but I wouldn't worry about it too much.
The only thing is - I see you put that this woman did a "total strip for him". It's unusual for it not to've been for a whole crowd. Was it a private dance?
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thanks for replying Ice.Maiden. Been hanging around to see if anyone would. This has been playing on my mind. He said, she stripped off and did this naked dance whatever, and he refused to pay as he didnt ask for it. His work mate ended up paying to stop the bouncers slapping him, so he tells me
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sounds like he didn't know what happens in such bars, didn't specially want it to happen, didn't want to pay for it when it happened anyway, and told you. Short of walking out on his mates, that's as much as you can expect of anyone; so I wouldn't worry.
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thanks jno for that. I did laugh (didnt know what else to do) but afterwards, it started to fester a bit in my head. I said to him, so you enjoyed it then. But he said no. And I did actually believe him
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I had a boyfriend who occasionally went to lap dancing clubs. While I wasn't exactly turning cartwheels about it (mind you, if I could then I could have worked in the club I guess) it didn't really phase me as I knew for him it had no bearing on our relationship. Sometimes he liked to watch, mostly he preferred sitting there with beer talkiing with his mates and admiring the view. Your guy sounds entirely different in that he didn't want to and had no idea how this sort of place works anyway so I'd just take it at face value and not make an issue out of it. Doesn't sound like his thing at all.
Also, don't forget men are all about the visuals and are way better at compartmentalising than most women in my experience. Even if he had enjoyed it, it's still nowt to do with your relationship particularly, (unless obviously it bothers you heaps in which case it's unacceptable).
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he let it slip? You mean you tortured the truth out of him? No bloke would let all of that slip!!!! maybe he is letting you down slowly.
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Thanks China, had to laugh about your cartwheel bit lol. I guess for the fact that he was at the bar in the first place (obviously not dragged there!) he wanted an oggle. I just wondered why he told me, when he knew it WOULD make me fester it over in my head. But I laughed it off like a trooper. So he didnt get the reaction he was maybe hoping for!
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Incidentally, the reason he let it slip out rather than tell you the minute he returned is almost certainly that he was embarrassed about the whole thing. Having to have your mates pay to get the bouncers off your case isn't great for self-esteem!
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no dot, he just mentioned to it me, I had no idea he had even been to Amsterdam.
There was a comment left in a birthday card sent to him by his colleagues, thats how the conversation started
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jno, I think this happened some months ago. I never met his workmates, was not likely ever to
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gayed. thanks for your advice
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Well my ex would tell me because I'm fairly laid back as long as I'm told in the first place but I'd have strung him up by the ghoulies and seriously damaged his possible fertility for the future had I heard it from someone else ;0) As long as people (boyfriends) are upfront with me in the first instance though then my violent tendencies are usually quite dormant.
Your bloke probably thought the same thing, 'better I tell her than someone else does and then she really begins to worry because it looks like I hid it.'
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I didn't mean you'd met his mates - I meant that he'd feel a bit embarrassed about his own ignorance at what would happen inside, and about his mates having to bail him out. I'll bet it's not something he wants to remember, and it says a lot for him that he did tell you anyway - many men wouldn't.
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lol China, to be honest, I would never of known had he not explained this comment from the birthday card. He could of told me any old sh*t explanation, so at least he told me the truth
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... on the other hand, they'd be unlikely to tell China Doll, with her Le Chiffre tendencies...
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Tut... it's only if they don't tell me that my tendencies get away with me... Otherwise I'm sweetness and light itself... ahem!
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I expect he got a good eyeful jno lol, made me feel a bit better with everyones comments, well except gayed, who I am trying to ignore!
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Don't try just do... Tits in a trance are ten a penny on herethis time of night and he's not even the best one.
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I said to him (in a jokey like "I am not jealous way") so you enjoyed it then, and he said, no, she was cold looking, and there was nothing sexual about it.
I knew he was lying lol, but at least I didnt cut all his trouser legs off and pour acid on the car. I just laughed it off (again)
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gayed, he only oggled her tits and lady garden. Dont think I can catch anything that way
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