my b/f let it slip that he went to Amsterdam on a works do, went to a strip bar, and this woman ended up doing a total strip dance for him. He said he didnt ask for it.
Having never been to a strip bar before, I dont know how it works. Do they just strip off completely anyway?
esther-ami Mon 06/10/08 23:21
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Not necessarily... Imagine how bored you'd be if every single night you had to take your clothes off for a bunch of strange men. I can tell you they'd be lucky if I didn't yawn half way through let alone attempt to look sexy.
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she quite likely was cold-looking - she was just doing her job as she presumably does night after night. She wasn't falling in love with your b/f and hoping to flee to Ipanema with him, she was just trying to raise the rent, which most of us do. Whether there was anything sexual about it is up to him, but since he didn't even want to pay her, let alone get to know her better, it sounds to me as if he was telling the truth.
More broadly, though, it's worth taking on board what China says. Men do look at women, clothed or not; they're not doing it to make you jealous, and you shouldn't be. Perhaps this is a good time to start asking yourself whether you trust him, and if not why not.
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I started writing that before China's last post, but it still holds true.
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Exunkly what the very wise jno said! And I'm off to bed now as I'm quite a poorly CD at the moment and the only reason I'm out of bed is I've been in it all day and now I can't sleep.
Don't make a big deal out of it. If you do have reasons to distrust your bloke then I'd agree with jno and would also suggest that it would be due to other stuff and not this incident which he's been pretty upfront about. If there are problems then pick your battles, this certainly doesn't seem to be a battle worth fighting in my opinon. G'night.
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jno, he has in the past, said things to "test my feelings" maybe he is as insecure as I am. But he knows I am, whereas he never shows it. Thats why I was worrying about this strip thing
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Lol - there ISN'T anything to get jealous about. I've been in some of those places over there, because I was one of just 2 women in an all-male group. Some of the girls are passable looking, but most have that dead-eyed look. Anyone who fancies dallying with those girls must be mad. I'd simply forget about it.
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night china, thanks for all your comments. Hope you feel better soon :-)
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thanks too Ice.Maiden. Will let it go. he's an OK bloke really
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I'm sure he is hun. Whether he went there by choice or otherwise, it doesn't really matter. He's man, out with his friends. It means nothing, and I'm sure you have nothing to worry about at all.
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I think you should, esther
Of course if he does it again, borrow China Doll's cattle prod. I'm not mad on people who test each other's feelings. But at the moment he sounds as if he's being straight with you.
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thanks again jno for all your help here. night night :-)
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Hey esther, if she'd shot a ping-pong ball at him, you'd have cause to be miffed. Otherwise, I'd just forget it.
(Ooo errrr, p'raps I shouldn't have said that - do ya think I'll get banned?)
[:0)
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Can't see a problem with the ping pong ball thing...
unless he caught it between his teeth...
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Don't worry about it Esther, boys will be boys. Be thankful he was honest and told you about it.
I've been to UK lapdancing clubs and the fully nude table dancers were at The Windmill Club in London, it was all very tasteful. I know in Amsterdam, strippers are more liberated, so it could have got a little more personal, depending on the type of venue.
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