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when you are in a unsatisfied relationship, but not totally bad one,would you

1, find someone better first, then finished the wrong relationship
2,finish the unsatisified realtionship first, then being single for a while then start looking for another one
3, keep the relationship and at same time develope another one, then keep them both
4,scared of start a new one, as worrying the new one probably got other problems, so even not satisfied with the current, still carry on, live with it
5, give it a timeline, wait and see if situation can get any better, then decide


mirela  Thurs 02/10/08 14:57
sallabananas
Thurs 02/10/08
15:31
Ah, that makes more sense - thanks!

In the past I have done 1 and 3 and 4 - it just isn't worth it.
5 is worth considering.
These days, in my wisdom (!) I would opt for 2.

mirela
Thurs 02/10/08
15:38

Question Author

yeah, thanks replies
my friends got divorced before, i think life expereience do change people's views. im quite naive about relationship i feel. when some people around me kept talking thing like that, i meant mainly about option1or4,made me quite pazzled, and when i gave opposit idea, they said i am too innocent.....
paulgardner
Thurs 02/10/08
15:41
number 2 or number 5
vibrasphere
Thurs 02/10/08
15:47
Don’t be afraid of being single, its ace, I would not give it up, you would have to fight me for it now ive got it and learned how to deal with it.

Its so easy to get into a rut and wake up one, two, three years down the line, don’t let that be you, equally don’t throw something good away.

Is it definitely your relationship that is the issue?, its easy to focus on that but maybe you need other goals - away from the relationship, fulfilment in other areas?

Above all be true to yourself, follow your heart, and believe in your self.

joggerjayne
Thurs 02/10/08
15:49
Hey, vibro ...

... you're everywhere today, aren't you.

J x
4getmenot
Thurs 02/10/08
16:18
oh just realised definately get rid if you have to play silly games on here not worth it
kellogs100
Thurs 02/10/08
19:36
Well I'm in a relationship which seems ok but has its problems. If you love the other person then I think you should stick at it. Theres just no such thing as a perfect relationships. Sometimes you just have to let things go and so long as no cheating is taking place it's got to be worth working on.
lil123
Fri 03/10/08
19:00
Look at yourself and ask are you happy with yourself?
If so then maybe look for another relationship, if not then spend some time being single and making yourself happy first
legend.isgod
Fri 03/10/08
19:02
Id work it out on my own èrhaps with friends .

But i wouldnt add it to the circus on here.


Totally stupid in my opinion and not helpful.

But if you want everyone to know then continue
MustangLady
Fri 03/10/08
19:15
I was in a unsatisfactory relationship until 4 months ago. We'd been together for 18yrs, he got a new hobby and i became a 'widow' of that hobby for nearly 2yrs I tolerated it. So i did 5) gave it time to see if it would be get better, then decided 2) finished the unsatisfactory relationship first, now i'm single and have been for 4 mths. I'm not ready for new relationship yet, but in time maybe, who knows. We're still friends, we never argued over anything when the relationship finished, i think he wanted it too but was too 'scared' to make the move so to speak. We actually get on better now, probably because we don't expect too much of each other and he does he thing and i do mine without questions.
terambulan
Fri 03/10/08
19:18
Write two lists: One for 'bad' and other for 'good'. Act on whichever is longest. If there are any children between you their opinions would be valid to.
mirela
Fri 03/10/08
22:48

Question Author

lots people dont finish their relationship even they are not happy tho, they either expect thing could get better or like option 4, scared of change!
Jafi
Fri 03/10/08
22:52
I would talk it through with my other half and try and find out what the problem is, communication is the key.
China Doll
Sat 04/10/08
13:30
I would always rather be single than in a bad or unsatisfying relationship. If you need another half to validate you then that is a problem in itself.
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