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need help being assertive

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i need to confront a friend about a bouncing cheque.i think i am too nice as i dont want to come across as agressive or accusing but i need some answers.ideally i would say where the hells my money but that wouldnt help.basically what i wanna say is the cheque bounced so when will i get my money and did you knowit would bounce.i dont want to threaten legal action til i have had a civilised convo.i quite like the person so wanna be reasonable.
Can anyone tell me how to be assertive and get answers especially if the person is evasive?
sorry for the essay
all answers appreciated

catcuddler Mon 08/09/08 12:25

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ceejn
Mon 08/09/08
20:43

Get unembarrassed quick,just say ,"The cheque you paid me has bounced,"don't add anymore than that,look her in the eye and wait for a reply.I suspect shes playing on your 'niceness' and hoping you wont bring it up.Grrrr! She knows!!!!

catcuddler
Mon 08/09/08
20:53

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i did call round today but no answer.just had a text saying will c u 2moro.so when i c them i will confront and do my best to be assertive.ceejn i think your right the person knows i am right and maybe thinks i am naive.i dont think the person is bad maybe just a chancer.i will have a good talk to them to try and sort it as i dont wanna go through small claims court unless i really have to.thanx again for all advice :-D

ceejn
Mon 08/09/08
22:51

If like me,you work too hard for your money to give it away .Good Luck

Velvetee
Thurs 11/09/08
11:35

I would say, the lesson to be learnt here, is don't lend anymore money, especially to this particular "friend".

catcuddler
Thurs 11/09/08
11:54

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i know that velvetee and i will stick to it.the person has replied to my txts and will check whats going on with his bank so i will keep u posted

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