Having a child early into your relationship

[MissCommando]

I was just reading about a z list 'celebrity' couple who have recently had a baby. The female became pregnant early into their relationship. Readers are commenting that's what happens when you don't get to know someone properly and that they were stupid.

I've only ever had 2 relationships lol, I was with my 1st boyfriend for 18 months and I met my husband at work and fell pregnant after 3 months. We've been together for 6 and a half years now. I spent more time with my husband in those 3 months, we were together almost 24/7 than I did with my boyfriend of 18 months.

Having been there myself, I would never judge someone for having a child early into a relationship. Only you, yourself know how you feel about that person and if it's right. I find people are very judgmental.

Are you judgmental in this regard?

[B00]

not judgmental no, but I do think given a choice it'd be better to spend time together as a couple before you become a trio!

[ladyalex]

Nobody's business but theirs.

[EvianBaby]

Except that couple make it their occupation to make their lives everyones business.

[tinkerbell23]

Well said pizza <3 xx

[B00]

And in case anyone is wondering, it's this couple MissC is talking 'bout.

http://www.dailymail....le-mum-miserable.html

[tamborine]

had I known my OHs family from hell, I wouldn't have wed

[pizza]

Ta for that link boo thought it was answerbank general ? not celeb sh*t x

[craft1948]

What happened to the good old days when you didn't have sex before you got married............................er just joking.

[MissCommando]

He's good thanks China, still not that into his food so we've resorted back to scrambled egg at night and he loves it.

ummmm - I think you're right there lol.

It's lovely to read the success stories on here, very sweet. Thanks for all your input, I like hearing people's opinions on here.

[sherrardk]

My 19 year old niece has just announced she's 12 weeks pregnant - her partner is 28, they've not been together that long. Her mum, my sister, is livid by the sounds of things (but seems to have forgotten that she was pregnant at 19 (unfortunately she lost the baby) and that she has five children by three different men).

[fairycakes69]

We had our first child at 18 been together for 6 months when I fell pregnant, had twins at 21 and another set at 23. Still together 26 years later, 2 grandkids and 2 more on the way. Had our moments, but still going strong. Life is what you make it. Our friends started having kids when we became grandparents. Glad we had them young, didn't know any better, we now have our lives and can enjoy the grandkids. (THough everyone seem to think they are our kids).

[ummmm]

OMG...how did you cope with 2 sets of twins?

[fairycakes69]

Just got on with it, bit of a shock but I still had everything from first set. Least I knew what I was doing second time. Did cause a bit of a stir when we were all out.

[pizza]

f.a.o fairycakes, a credit to family life some folk just give up too easy, bet your family parties are amazing and all the best with the grandkids and great grandkids lol x
I wonder how many fairycakes you will make for them all mmm x

[fairycakes69]

Thank you pizza, christmas is fun. Just wonder how many little people we'll end up with, lots of fairycakes I hope. Hubby not quite so keen, men!!