Am I right to be upset by the girls behaviour?

[Kentish]

I've been seeing a girl less than a month so it's still at it's infancy. Last night I was out with clients and she was nearby so she texted to see what I was up to. Unfortunately, I couldn't leave until later but I told her I would head over when I could and she was okay with that. Finally, when I could leave I let her know I was on my way, it was a 10/15 min walk from where I was to her. Just minutes before I got there, I received a text to say she was going home and she'll see me soon. This upset me because of the lack consideration, she couldn't even spare 5 minutes just to say hello. Am I right to be upset by the whole thing and is this a sign that maybe she doesn't care as much as I think she does?

In addition my natural reaction is to say what I think about her behaviour rather than pretend it didn't happen and move on but as I still don't know her too well she could see it as me being confrontational, on the other hand I don't want to give the impression that I'm a walk over.

[woofgang]

Its not question of "right" either you are upset and you say something or you aren't and you don't.

[sith123]

maybe she had to go home?

[rowanwitch]

how long after making the arrangements did you get away if it was an hour or more I'd have gone home too... the reasonable ness relates to the timescales involved

[Sqad]

\\\\\ I don't want to give the impression that I'm a walk over.\\\

and THAT is the bottom line my friend.

[triggerhippy]

less than month
confrontational
walk over
doomed.

[Old_Geezer]

I suspect she was cheesed off and went off in a huff as you hadn't managed to drop everything to see her, and she had been waiting around. If it was an isolated incident then best forget it. It has been less than a month, maybe expectatinos are too high. But it might be indicative of the relationship that's not going to be easy. Maybe play it 'by ear' ?

[rowanwitch]

Men and their flippin egos

She won't see you as a walk over but now you know you see she is not going to be one either .... she didn't wait ...so maybe you feel you were not important enough... get over it it wasn't exactly a date she's backed out of it was a casual thing

[triggerhippy]

stop thinking
start shagging

[snags]

^ Says the man who spends all his free time in a dark room fiddling with his controller ;-p

In answer to the original question... lighten up... it's early days. Neither of you need this kind of unneccesary pressure.

[Robinia]

Next time you see her just say 'Sorry we didn't get to meet up on Tuesday' and leave it there, don't make an issue of it.

[triggerhippy]

80% of his free time

I have a bike now

[puddle-duck]

I agree with rowanwitch it depends on the timescale. You've shown her that you're not going to be a walk over, she in a way has shown you the same. Time to put the egos aside & ask yourself " do you want a relationship with this woman or not"?

What it looks like to me is a power struggle is going on. If you want to be with this woman then push aside your ego, stop the games & contact her.

[Eve.]

I also think it depends on situation and timescale. If she was say out with her friends and they wanted to leave so she'd be waiting on her own or wanted to get a taxi with people or it was late, she was tired, had to be up early etc... If it had been a long time she was waiting then it may have been reasonable for her to decide she wanted to go home.

It's a one off in the early days of a relationship with possible good reason and if there is a good reason and you really like her then you could be seen as overreacting then it might not go down too well.