feeling a little low

[peason77]

so it's now 1 month since i heard from my ex, i'm feeling low. I'm not hormonal and i've got plenty to occupy my day, but thoughts of him keep pushing through. Maybe the reality of it all is hitting me, or maybe i'm a sucker for punishment who needs a good slap. Should i just ride the hurt today? 1 month on you'd think i would be over days like these!!

[bagpuss63]

Depends how long u were together, were u close as in doing things together. Took me 2 months to stop crying all day, over 12 months before could let my son watch video tape he made of days out,but thats me-5 years together

[ummmm]

<1 month on you'd think i would be over days like these!!>

No, not really. 1 month, 4 weeks, 28 days....it's not long. Give yourself a break and accept that this is just how you feel today x

[peason77]

thanks people. We were on and off for 3 years. But he was a support to me. Maybe thats what i'm missing, because i'm finding everything hard. We broke for 8 weeks once, so you would think i was used to it. I don't like the thought of him meeting someone else. That's the bit that sticks in my throat, and i'm not an obsessive teenage girl, i'm a 34yr old single mum! ha

[ummmm]

No one likes the thought of their ex meeting someone else. Not in the early days anyway. It gets easier...

Maybe this time, after 4 weeks, you know it's really over, and that's why it's hitting you harder than it did last time.

[happyone2]

You are doing very well and for that you should give yourself a gold star................ being alone if you are not accustomed to is not easy even with out the heart ache of a break up...............so i feel you are judging yourself too harshly.

I feel you need to divorce your missing him with being lonely............... they are seperate issues but to you might be entwined........

Be strong......... you are a strong woman....pxx

[peason77]

you are very kind happyone2. Thankyou. You could be right. I appreciate your input x

[rowanwitch]

Be prepared for a difficult christmas too...it seems like everyone is 'coupled up 'for the holiday... they are not... but its only one day,,then boxingday weather permitting get out for a bit of fresh air... your new life has already started you are just not ready to embrace it yet... I found someone new (and wonderful) at 54 and that was probably because I didn't allow myself to grab life by the hairy bits and say 'bring it on' you don't know what opportunities are around the corner

[sallyann16]

I just replied to your original thread Peason - I'm in exactly the same position. Do read what I said and realise you are not alone.