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When does it start to get 'easier'?

I know that there is no time limit on grieving but in your own experience when did it begin to get a little 'easier', I know that 'easier' is not the right word, but when did you feel more able to cope? Not meaning to be maudling.

haysi06 Mon 06/10/08 22:50

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ummmm
Wed 08/10/08
11:43

Thanks Drisgirl. My Sons school have arranged for him to have bereavement counselling as his behaviour went crazy after he died. I thought I didn't need it but I now realise I was just putting a brave face on. It's 7 months now and I miss him more and more as time goes on.

mrs_overall
Wed 08/10/08
11:51

What lovely, kind answers.
The only thing I can add is that everyone is an individual and deals with things in different ways.
My personal experience is that there are bad days and not so bad days. Sometimes a "not so bad day" can turn into a "really bad day" by the most trivial of things. I found that certain milestones were hard (first Xmas, first birthday, anniversary of death etc).

The best advice I was given was not to look to the future, but take one day at a time. xx

sanden
Wed 08/10/08
22:20

Mrs O, thats so true - Christmas can be such an awful time when you dont have your loved one around and everyone else is having such a wonderful time, and as you say anniversaries are very difficult.

haysi06
Sat 11/10/08
10:56

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Once again, thanks for comments, and sharing your experiences; I know how painful it is to do so.

I do count myself lucky that I had my mum for so long and do remember and think about all of the good memories, but recently I have been overwhelmed with feelings of loss and grief. I do know that it takes time and have spoken to a counsellor in the past, and think that I will do so again.

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