I have just found out a male friend of mine is bisexual . I must admit to being ignorant about this , can somebody shed some light on what bi sexuality means? Does it mean he is and interacts with both sexes?
flump1 Wed 03/09/08 22:22
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Hi JJ , he is ummmmmm advertising for a bi friend !!! Which kind of adds to the shock !!
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Well maybe he wants to meet someone who understands how he feels as there can be a lot of prejudice towards bi-sexuals from both hetero and homo-sexuals.
I personally don't like the label things, it's society that puts the labels on, in mu option people like who they like, why should they be labelled and stigmatised as long as it's natural and legal.
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flump,
Does he want a Bi male friend,or a Bi Female friend,because either would probably do?
That doesn't mean BTW that he would not be still attracted to you,both physically and sexually(if he is truly Bi~Sexial).
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Jenna,
Sorry,but as a gay man I must disagree.
I have never known prejudice towards Bi~Sexuals from gays,only the worry that they may dump you and go back to a woman,course heterosexuals can dump too(and gays)
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I don't even think about what a person's sexual preferences might be. It might only matter if, like flump, she was considering a sexual relationship with this man before insisting that he had a medical check-up. If everything's OK, and they both want to do the deed - then fair enough, but from what I've heard from gay friends, if a guy's bi-sexual, it sometimes means that he's he probably IS gay, but not sure of himself.
Then again flump - this guy might've put his pic up out of curiousity - or maybe it was sent in by friends as a prank?
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That's nice to hear IAP :)
I used to do a lot of equal ops work, much of which was with the LGB campaigns. I saw a horrible amount of prejudice to bisexuals including a particularly nasty national conference for LGB in which one of the conveners was publically and privately slated in a very nasty way for deciding she was bi instead of a lesbian.
The gist of it was, if she couldn't make up her mind about her sexuality then how could she make up her mind about anything else.
I've seen bi's excluded from LGB events because they aren't gay or straight and there was a huge fuss on an LGB conference night out as a gay club refused to let anyone bi in.
I've also been around conversations with a number of gay people who have vocally slated bi's for just being greedy and not being able to make up their mind.
One of my big things was a no labels campaign.
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Hi IAP he is looking for a male friend , actually telling a gay man where the best gay spots are in town !! I just feel we have been open and honest about all sorts of other things , and we both appreciate we have history and futures, it was a shock to read it reather than be told
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Further to Ice Maiden's post, I have an ex from back about 10 years ago who, while we were together, came out as bi to me.
I said that was fine and not a problem.
About a week later he came out as gay.
It was very hard at first , for both of us, but we are still great mates and I've lived and worked with him and some of his boyfriends and all fine. He's married to a man now.
It was after seeing the issues he faced I ended up getting involved with LGB work, initially to help him and it spiralled into sitting on national committees.
It's not to say at all that that is what may happen, I know guys who are bi and have been in long standing relationships with either sex, it's like any relationship, you have no idea how it might turn out.
There's no need to rush things, take your time and just see how things go and please try and tread carefully and try not to give him any neuroses about his sexuality stemming from your own feelings.
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I that is terrible Jenna.
How can gays/lesbians expect to be treated equally when then discriminate against bi sexuals?
Of ciurse(sadly) radicals have got into most organisations now,and PC (which was a food idea) is used as an excuse for all sorts of persecution.
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flump.
I think he is VERY lucky to have a friend like you,who will not judge hi,but will be there if he needs you.
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Sorry,I must be getting tired,I seem to be losing letters all over the place! LOL
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My keyboard's not doing too well either IaP!!
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this thread sounds well dodgy to me lmao
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Hey Mr Pickle (sorry to interrupt the thread) .....
I was wondering, did you post those piccies of your house? If you did, I think I might have missed the post. :o(
No matter if you didn't get the chance. :o)
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Hi there mrs chappie,I keep trying to get started on it,and will soon, I promise.My partners Brother and Sister in law came to stay(unexpectedly) and only left recently(after 8days!)
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zig.zag
I don't see anything dodgy about this thread,unless your own sexuality is dodgy? LOL
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Ah but zig.zag,
I have known dies to be twisted and bent! LOL
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Perhaps he only has sex twice a week, twice a month, or twice a year: hence the term 'bi'.
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