Clubbing

[4getmenot]

When i go to nightclubs I get alot of blokes grabbing my butt. Is there anyone out there that actually likes guys doing this? It annoys the hell out of me and I dont know why blokes thinks it might impress women.

[laurence2]

4getmenot, As a bloke i think it is very belittling to women and shows no respect, can i ask Why do you let alot of blokes grab your butt, is it the same fellas etc.

if it annoys you either one, tell them your have them done for sexual assault, or two, go somewhere else as if its happening that often the clubs must be abit sleazy

[Drisgirl]

I seriously have been known to grab their genitals and dig my talons in.I can assure you he doesnt find that amusing (a bit like Raoul on the Diet Irn-Bru ad).

I remember once in the pub a guy grabbed my boobs as I was passing-unfortunately I took my hand too far back so he knew what was coming and he ducked and I ended up like the fool (no change there then).

BTW- I hate anyone mauling me and I personally find it degrading.

[andy-hughes]

I have never ever touched a woman in any way until I was perfectly sure that she wanted me to - why a man would do this is a mystery to me.

If I was a woman, I wouild slap seven shades out of any stranger who assaulted me in this way.

[4getmenot]

Not sleazy clubs at all. I think blokes do it in most clubs and I dont really take notice to see if they the same bloke. Its just when I'm on the dance floor blokes grab my butt. Do they really think I'm gonna turn round and say oh my god that felt lovely please go to bed with me. Last time someone did it to my mate she turned round and nipple twisted name. Their face was classic :-)

[natalie_1982]

4getmenot, last saturday I had a pair of low rise jeans on, and one fella, not satisified with grabbing my backside actually slipped his hand inside the back of my jeans. And they think this makes you want them? This isn't the first time it has happened. I just don't get it.

[AliFlump]

Nat 1982 thats outrageous!!! How dare they think they can just touch you for their own gratification! I have punched a bloke who grabbed my bum. Like Drisgirls reply tho!!

[natalie_1982]

Another one is if you're dancing with a fella, just dancing - no funny business - probably not even be a smoochy song, but they think it is ok to run their hands around your waist gettig dangerously close to boobies, if not just plain grabbing them.

And these aren't 'sleazy' clubs, and i don't let them do it. I like going out to have a drink and dance (and more often than not a kebab/ chips on the way home).

I don't go out so some loner can cop a feel and make me feel inadequate.

(Oh, 4getmenot, one time I was waiting at a bar and there was 3 lads stood behind me - my boyfriend was at the table - and they kept grabbing my bum, then one slipped his hand inside the back of my jeans so I instinctively kicked out behind me, like a donkey I guess, and caught his mate straight in the goolies!!)

[stanleyman]

This really is a sexual assault and no different in a club or a dark alley. If you do nothing about it then it won't stop. Set off a rape alarm, make sure you can identify the culprit and call the police. If you can't do that then scream at him and belittle him as a pervert.

[natalie_1982]

Stanley they'd probably get a kick out of it if you did that in the middle of a dance floor with an audience.

[Drisgirl]

In response to Stanleyman - Just last year I was in the chipper with my pal and I was standing at the counter waiting on our order.We were having the usual laugh and the guy next to me - who I knew-when I picked up our order said -Hey (name) I've got a wee surprise for you.He took my hand - I was anticipating a wind-up- and lo and behold he slapped his tadger in my hand.I went ballistic-Police-DNA the lot but the police didnt take it further as no-one actually saw his tadger.

Waste of space.I wouldnt have bothered with Police had I known what the outcome would have been.I would in future take my nails down someones face so they had a permanent reminder of what they had done.

[smudge]

Reminds me of when I was walking down some steps at a railway station - two fellas came walking up to me & said right in my face "Hello darling, can we feel your t!ts?". It took me by surprise, but I turned round & casually said "Dunno, you'd better ask my husband" who just happened to be walking a few steps behind with our daughters! They soon scarpered off!

Needless to say, I didn't tell my husband what they'd said until they were well out of site!

[smudge]

I know that's wasn't as bad as someone actually touching me, but it was just as intimidating! Cheeky s0ds!

[Drisgirl]

What is it with men in social situations - full of drink.

On a lighter note - well it cant get much heavier than my previous post.Well it could but dont want to go there.I am going to write a book as my brother suggested as each thread on here brings back memories!!

Anyway I digress - I was in a busy pub in Edinburgh and this guy was holding court with 3 birds,I was needing past so I said 'Excuse me' and he said 'How what have you done'whilst chuckling at his own 'wit' and looking at the birds.I said 'Farted and it was a hot silent one' and kept going.The girls all laughed and he was left saying'There was no need for that'.I hadnt by the way - I keep those treasures for the bed to annoy my husband:)

[4getmenot]

Oh my god Drisgirl. A girl after my own heart :-)

[ermintrude35]

...a couple of years back on a crowded bus, I felt someone grab my arse , so I grabbed the offending hand , thrust it in the air and announced rather loudly to the stunned passangers " has anyone lost this hand..?..as I have just found it on my arse".... works a treat everytime...

[stevie_c2it]

Dris, horrified to hear of your unfortunate encounter in the chippy, and the man who slapped his �tadger� into your hand.
I�m surprised you didn�t think to batter him!

[4getmenot]

Or the tadger!! :-)

[4getmenot]

and ermintrude35 I will have to keep that one in mind. Well done you :-)

[Drisgirl]

Stevie - I initially thought it was a chipolata so I wasnt on the ball so to speak.

[Drisgirl]

Just remembered another one - I was in a club with another pal,sitting next to this couple.His hand wandered and despite politely putting it back because I didnt want to offend his partner he persisted.

I said to my pal - pretend you've dropped something and look under the table.On cue his hand wandered again - I took hold of his hand and bent his fingers back.He shouted before he could help himself 'Ya Basket what did you do that for' to which I replied 'because I am p!$$ed off with you trying to feel me up'.My pal collapsed in a heap on the floor laughing.It was ace

I havent lead a sheltered life as you probably all will have realised by now:)